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True Love Is Curious

Thursday, February 25, 2016

On the surface, it may appear that everyone seems happy, connected, and free of care. After all, we’re all trained to wear “the mask”. Yet, in the midst of it all, there are so many people who are suffering quietly. Oh, they go through the motions, complete with smiles and the just right words, but look very closely. There is a slight turning away when loved ones are mentioned, as they privately remember a loss. There is that subtle “glazing of gaze” when our latest purchase is mentioned, because they feel shame over a hurting financial condition. Every now and then there will be a slight tear shed for a broken relationship, quickly whisked away so as not to be a burden. So many people are suffering so deeply, deep within their souls. Please take time to notice, dare to give it voice, and care enough to lend a hand. Believe me, your joy will be deeper and more complete if you do. Remember, true love is curious, and cares to the point of action. 

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Election-Cycle Advice

Thursday, February 18, 2016
The next time you find yourself in a debate or an argument, here are four things to remember. 

(1) First, facts don’t trump beliefs. If there is a disagreement, it's at the core likely to be about what the parties believe, and not about any one point of fact. Simply put, we are “wired” to receive facts that support our beliefs, and to discard those that don’t. And if that point isn’t powerful enough, consider this. 

(2) When we press facts that are contrary to a defensive belief system, they only serve to make that belief system stronger! Do yourself a favor, and give that notion some very deep thought. People have a serious investment in their sense of mastery and self-esteem, which brings me to the third point. 

(3) If people feel competent and good about themselves, then they are more likely to accept new ideas. People who feel challenged and put down do not. It’s a profound knowing that building people up makes them receptive to new information, while proving them wrong closes their minds. 

The question of whether you would rather be “right” or “effective” is quite wise to ask, and the bottom line is this. Argument to the detriment of relationship will always be foolish, so try to think of it this way; my fourth and last point. 

(4) If you passionately build others up, then they just might grow curious about your point of view!



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Loved Ones

Thursday, February 04, 2016

Do you readily think of your “loved ones” as both “loved” and as “ones”? Do you believe that they deserve your love, no matter what? Can you respect their “oneness” even when it’s challenging? Please take these questions to heart. Your answers can make all the difference in the world.

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Healthy Enough for Sex?

Thursday, January 21, 2016

At the end of a recent commercial, the voice implores, “Ask your doctor if your heart is healthy enough to have sex.” Okay? But how would my doctor know THAT without really knowing me? Is YOUR heart healthy enough to have sex? Here are some questions to consider. Do I have an abiding love for this person? Are our values aligned for the experience we are about to share? Do I consider sex to be sacred and transcendent? Am I seeking “love making” more than “pleasure taking”? And speaking of pleasure, is this encounter more for me to give than to get? Will mutual respect be the cornerstone of the experience? Will we have playful and creative sharing that leaves an enduring atmosphere of connection and joy? So, how about you? Is your heart ready? Only you can know for sure.


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Disorganized Religion?

Thursday, January 14, 2016

Are you aware of what we call the “faith factor” in physical, emotional and relational health? Exercised faith seems to positively support them all. This is why I routinely ask clients, “Do you have any particular faith that you practice?” They typically get befuddled, and ask, “Do you mean religion?” I say, “Not necessarily, but if that’s what you mean…”. The next statement I hear has become predictable, and it’s this. “I don’t believe in ‘organized religion’”. My response has also become predictable, and I say, “So you prefer your religion to be disorganized?” After the surprised smiles and laughter, the real conversation begins. The Bible actually says that pure and faultless religion is to look after orphans and widows in their distress. You can read that as, “Anyone in need”. Imagine that! “Religion” is defined as expressing love and charity towards distressed people. And whether you practice love and charity in an organized or disorganized way, it will definitely be a better day for a needful someone. So, back to my question. Do you have any particular faith that you practice? Does it inform your life? I hope you will give that some very deep thought. Remember, at least to some degree, your physical, emotional and relational health relies on the answer. In the meantime, practicing some “pure and faultless religion," whether it’s organized or disorganized just might be a great idea!

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Destiny? Legacy? Easy!

Friday, January 01, 2016

The people you encounter today are your destiny! Engage them with an open heart, treat them with respect, and leave them all just a little bit better than when you found them. Remember, what you do with your interactions today will eventually become your legacy. Make it positively lasting! Of those you meet today, how will you “show up” in their heads and hearts tomorrow?


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Pre-Op Discussion

Sunday, September 20, 2015

In a pre-op discussion with my wife's surgeon, she turned her attention to my needs. Addressing how I would be kept informed, she said, "Of course, you will be in the waiting area worrying..." I immediately said, "I won't be doing that." She looked at me quizzically, and I said, "I won't do that to myself, to my wife or to you. I'll be sitting by the water, reading and believing for great outcomes. I refuse to worry. Call me when you have information." That was that! We have choices. Metaphorically, we can choose life, or we can choose death with every idea that crosses our minds. We expand, or we contract with what we believe in our thought life. We mentally give birth to good, or we lay it to rest in each moment that we're thinking. I'm not perfect at it just yet, but I'm working on giving birth to good, choosing life and expanding in all of its rich and infinite forms. I trust that you are too.


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Sweet & Sour

Wednesday, July 08, 2015

“Summertime, and the livin’ is easy…” At least that's what the lyrics say. But tell me, how’s your summer unfolding? If “the livin’ is easy” for you, then perfect! But if you’re like most people, then life is challenging at a time when the weather is hot, and the kids are out of school. I mean, for many, THAT is the challenge! As for me, the flavor of my life is consistently “Sweet & Sour”. You know, kind of like Chinese food. At any given point, I can tell you the blessings AND the curses. The stock market looks like it has rapidly cycling mood swings, and the Supreme Court does too! Relax; it looks that way to liberals and conservatives, depending on the issue. Earthquakes and plagues and wars and heads rolling around, literally, can be a bit unnerving. It's good to be aware of it all, but please join me in my simple little place. I know it’s a registered trademark, but come on, life is good, and sometimes, life is good, even when it’s not. If your life is like mine, then you’ve probably noticed what I notice. The “sour” provides a powerful contrast for more appreciation of the “sweet”. I think that’s how it’s supposed to be. It’s not wrong to acknowledge and speak of the sour life. We’re supposed to! It makes us closer. But let it serve its purpose, and its purpose is to make us more sensitive to the finer nuances of the sweet life. Life is good and life is sweet, even when it doesn’t seem to be. Try to remember that.


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Reality, really?

Wednesday, June 03, 2015

I think it’s awesome that we can sit next to someone we’ve known forever, experience the very same thing, and then describe two completely different realities. What's really amazing is that we can then choose up sides, and try to decide with great passion who is right, and who is wrong. Reality is a slippery slope, and when I was pressed to define it long ago, I said, “Reality is what most people agree to at any given point in time.” You know, like the earth used to be flat! Reality is only real in isolation, or by consensus. And when it comes to reality, consensus is very hard to achieve. As for me, I like my reality in isolation. I mean, I like my little world of positive illusion, and I respect your right to embrace yours. It takes a lot of grace and intellectual honesty to know that reality isn’t real. It never has been, and it never will be, so don’t get too hung up about it. I suggest we all just relax, and enjoy one another. Someday, we’ll talk about truth.

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An Exquisite Exchange

Saturday, May 16, 2015

I think the best relationships are based on a principle of mutuality. Mutuality is an exchange of persons, which says, “I am yours, and you are mine”. It says that if something bothers you, then it will bother me. Mutuality says I am open to your point of view, even if it takes me a while to understand. It takes a lifetime to perfect, but mutuality says that when you take a breath, my chest will rise. Mutuality says that whether you are near or far, I will live my life as if through your soul. Of course, this implies a natural desire to always know the other more deeply. In mutuality we never lose our sense of self, but our sense of the other is disciplined to always be greater. The measurement in mutuality is that each gives one hundred percent, and no one keeps score. Can you imagine a relationship where two people are committed to this principle?

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